Today’s Change Maker is the lovely Elyse Santilli from Notes on Bliss.
Elyse and I have never met in person, however we connected online + dance in similar coaching circles too (those beautiful you coaches are just too hard to resist). I really love that while fun + playful, Elyse has a depth to her work + online digs that really go to the places that matter. It is after all these things that create real change.
I am so excited to be able to share with you her experiences + insights in this interview.
Sit back, relax + enjoy this inspired ride. Please welcome the beautiful Elyse Santilli…
What does living an inspired lifestyle mean to you?
Living an inspired lifestyle means living in alignment with my soul – following my intuition, leaning towards joy, giving my gifts in the biggest possible way, designing my life around my current core desired feelings (freedom, abundance, inspiration, creativity, love, magic).
How do you create change in your life and/or business?
I actually have a five-step process for creating change – I am very organised like that! 🙂
I get crystal clear on what to be, do and have next. I do some mindset work to make sure my beliefs are on board with the changes. I start to adopt the feelings associated with having my new lifestyle. I surrender it over to my highest self and the Universe and ask to be guided to whatever is for my highest fulfillment and the wellbeing of all. And I take inspired action – baby steps will do! I try my best to follow my intuition – it takes a lot of trust and faith but I am always amazed at the miracles that unfold.
What challenges have you faced along the way? How have you, or are you overcoming them?
Oh my goshness – it felt like a lot of challenges in the beginning. But in hindsight they were all perfect because they all helped me grow into the person I am today. So they were blessings.
The main challenges have been internal – fear of being seen, being judged, not being enough. Sneaky whacky beliefs holding me back from my power. Hiding by procrastinating. Being a perfectionist – which was really a sneaky way to protect me from being vulnerable and real.
I have found the best way to overcome them is a mixture of massive self love and acceptance, forgiving my fears and thoughts, using mantras, asking for guidance, and taking bold action despite my fear – feeling the fear and doing it anyway. Sometimes you have to be brave if you want to create your dreams!
When did you first know you were meant for something more and how did you take the leap?
I have been obsessed with philosophy and the meaning of life since I was a child – I had a niggling feeling there was so much more to life than what we were being taught in school.
However I took the traditional safe route for a long time – going to University and working in law. Dating the good-on-paper guy who wasn’t right for my soul for 8 years before eventually breaking it off.
Then when I went on my first date with my now-husband, he asked what I did for a living and I explained I was a lawyer. Normally that impressed people and they left the conversation at that, so I could hide my true feelings about it. But he innocently and curiosly asked: What do you love about that? The question took me by surprise. I had to be honest and admit it wasn’t my passion at all. I admitted I always wanted to do something creative. Admitting it out loud was scary but freeing. That conversation was the catalyst for my radical career shift to writing and coaching.
If you could change one thing in the world what would it be?
I would love for everyone to wake up to the truth – the truth of their magnificence, power, true loving nature, and divinity. As the poet Rumi says, we are the Universe in ecastaitc motion! We are made of stardust and inherently worthy. The truth is pretty amazing and magical.
If you were to give one piece of advice to someone who is ready for more, but holding back through fear of the unknown, what would it be?
Trust your vision, dreams and joy – they are yours for a reason.
Do not settle for a life less than the one your heart aches for.
Know that you will be guided – if you take baby steps in faith the Universe will meet you halfway.
Be future you in advance – embody the beliefs and feelings you would need to create your dreams.
Don’t forget to have fun!
And love yourself fiercely.
Is there a person or experience that inspired change in your life, if so who and/or what?
Going to local philosophy classes for the past 5 years – not as part of any degree, just for fun and learning. It has woken me up to so many truths about life. It was such a touch of grace!
What are your top 3 ways to stay inspired?
- Reading inspiring material. We don’t have a TV, which gives us more time for reading and learning. I love Pam Grout, Mike Dooley, Rumi, A Course In Miracles, Matt Kahn, I could list so many!
- Travelling. I love the fresh and exciting feeling of being in a new city and experiencing new sights, sounds, people and cultures.
- Connecting with my soul. Sometimes I have to take a break from reading and go within to see what my soul wants to say to the world. We are all a unique expression of the Universe. No one can be you and that is your power. The best inspiration comes from your inner guidance.
What is one thing people don’t know about you (it can be something fun, a fear, or something close to your heart – whatever you would like to share)?
I would love to be a published author. I am also not fearless – I just dig deep and do things even though I am afraid. I meditate daily but still cannot be trusted with peanut butter in the house! The joys of being both human and divine. 🙂
I absolutely loved connecting with Elyse and getting to know all of these beautiful insights into her life, passions + beliefs. A couple of my biggest takeaways were:
- I loved how Elyse recognised that her challenges made her who she is today! It truly is the hard moments just as much as the good that make us whole.
- This piece of advice from Elyse is gold, Be future you in advance – embody the beliefs and feelings you would need to create your dreams.
- And I have to say I cannot be trusted around peanut butter either hehe.
I’d love to hear what your biggest takeaways or inspirations were from Elyse’s interview? Please share away in the comments below.
Elyse Santilli is a writer and life coach at NotesOnBliss.com.
She is also the creator of the Beautiful Life Bootcamp online course.
Her work is regularly featured on sites like Mind Body Green, the Huffington Post and Tut.
She teaches people to connect with their soul, create their dreams and expand their happiness.
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